Get Out of Your Own Way

I work for a company that is unconventional. I think in some people’s minds that equals not legitimate… and that pisses me off really. I know that there were several schemes in the past. And I know that there are still some real scum bag people out there trying to put one over on you. But when someone decides that an opportunity is not legitimate because it asks you to invest in yourself, I get angry. Because here’s the thing… If you aren’t willing to invest in a business that you are fortunate enough to own and run yourself then you’re basically saying that you don’t believe in yourself enough to go for it. I know this is controversial, I get it, but the truth is is that there is a whole bunch of naivete in thinking that someone will gift you a business for nothing. That would be awesome… I mean for sure. But very unrealistic. When you think about the way in which businesses are changing and what it actually costs to run a brick and mortar store front, the investment asked of us is small potatoes. The other way my ever positive mind works is, “what’s being out a bunch of money in comparison to what if it works?” Does that make sense? Safety is overrated. I’d rather take a huge gamble on myself and potentially make magic happen than live in a bubble of safe ‘what ifs.’ Any day of the week.

Hundreds of thousands of stores closed last year because of the way that shopping online is growing. And because online shopping continues to grow so does the need for online marketing as well as the need for technological education. Enter Network and Affiliate marketing. I know several, if not hundreds, of people personally who have had massive success running their businesses from home with these styles of businesses. And what’s not to love if it “actually works.” The ever quoted “laptop lifestyle,” work from home, spend more time with your family, improve your lifestyle, get out of debt… too good to be true, right? Ahhhhhh NO. It’s attitude. It’s mindset. It’s willingness. It’s understanding the way these businesses work and having patience. It’s understanding that some people do in fact get rich quick but that is not the promise going in. It’s understanding that even though it’s all of those awesome things listed above, it’s also equal parts hard work and positive attitude.

What I can promise is if you give something like this a try, you will find yourself in a way that no office job could ever offer. These businesses force you to get out of your comfort zone and grow in the same way going to therapy would. There’s enormous power in being surrounded by like minded people who are basically saying, “here, copy me on everything I’ve ever done, but find your niche, do it with your flare, and get successful too.” They’re selling you how they did it in a business in a box. They did all the hard work, found out what worked, and then wrapped it all up in an awesome little package that they ask you to invest in. It’s good business. It’s personal. You take the education piece and then fit it in around your business style and personality, you include the bits that are important to you, take what you need and leave the rest. But what is usually left, if you do the work, is a mighty nice income stream, inside an awesome business model, that you were gifted by investing in yourself. And molding that self into more than you ever imagined. I’m not joking… I’m doing Affiliate Marketing but in the course of doing so have found a platform for sharing on the things that I’m most passionate about. That is awwwwwsome, inexplicably powerful, life changing, relationship changing, and worth every single penny I’ve ever invested.

I love sharing about what it is I’m doing. This done-for-you, automated system is exactly everything I was hoping it would be and more. I’m able to attend all of my youngest’s appointments for his special needs, all of my children’s school and sports commitments, spend time with my husband and my friends, and most importantly do the things for me that equal my ability to do all of the above…. yoga, meditation, and more. Please feel free to look for me on Facebook, follow me here or on YouTube, check out my business link, or all of the above. The absolute best part of what I do is sharing it with others… telling people how they could change their lives too.


Stop Blaming, it’s Exhausting

Sooooo… guess who’s responsible for your happiness and success?? YOU, silly!!!! Man oh man, if all the world could only grasp this we’d get somewhere, right? So today, let’s talk about blame and taking responsibility.

My very good friend did a video about this yesterday and she’s as blunt as I am. I love it. Her message was basically, be prepared to continue to fail if all you’re willing to do is blame everyone and everything for your lack of success. She is not wrong.

I’ve always been passionate about this topic. Well, once I figured out the lesson for my own damn self. Of course it’s easier to say that it’s someone or something else’s fault for our behavior, our actions, or our lack of success. I absolutely, positively believe that. It is so impossible sometimes to take ownership and do the right thing…. but that is what NOT blaming is… the RIGHT thing.

I can tell you from personal experience that blaming was my easy way out, it worked often, but felt terrible. Taking ownership was so hard, was met with acceptance, and filled with integrity… I’ll take hard any day of the week. I know… WHAT? But hear me out… Having lived with very little integrity in the past, it’s worth the hard every single day of the week. Not only do I now have integrity, but I get to teach my children about how important it is… a lesson never passed down to me.

In life taking responsibility looks a lot like admitting when we’re wrong, making amends, allowing other people to have a choice, a say, an opinion. It’s continuously working towards growth while simultaneously practicing humility. Just two sentences… sounds easier than it is, right? I agree with that. If you weren’t taught the simple actions of taking responsibility and not blaming, or you suffer from insecurity or the like then it is a rougher road for certain… But a very worthwhile road all the same. How those things feel vs just skating by or blaming outside circumstances will always and every time be worth the hardship. I promise.

Let’s talk about this in relation to success in business because it’s a big one… And one I’m familiar with. Mine looks a little different. When others around me are successful I’m more inclined to just stop working, assuming I’m incapable in relation to them. Which is also a problem, a big fat lie and fear all by itself. Something I work on regularly and now throw myself into learning more instead of up and quitting. But I see it all the time… people blaming other people and other things for their failures or lack of success. Now don’t get me wrong, I think circumstance is a real thing, but I also believe in solutions. When you find yourself living in the solution of any kind of problem or speed bump, success will follow. If we up and quit every time someone or something got in the way there would be no success. It’s the fastest way to stop blaming… to realize that it’s just you putting the brakes on something because that’s easier than living in the solution. I believe in solutions to the point that simply not doing or giving up is a solution, BUT it must fit the case appropriately. For example, if a person is continuously giving you bad advice in an area you’re trying to work on, the solution might be to simply stop going to that person rather than blaming them for your lack. Or if using a certain program always leads you to needing to repeat the task, simply giving up on that program would be living in the solution. You feel me?

Living in the solution is one of my most favorite, favorite sayings because it in in fact taking responsibility. I can admit my weaknesses and work to improve them, I can be honest about past mistakes and have a good laugh at myself, I can try things, fail, and try again because all of that is better and more fulfilling than blaming and throwing my integrity down the toilet any day of the week, minute of the day.

It all comes down to choice, doesn’t it? Do the work to be happy with you so that your actions in turn are actions of integrity. Sounds easy enough. It’s not, I get that, but it’s worth it every single time. Every time I choose to work on myself in an area that needs a little tweaking I am forever grateful that I did the work. It may not be easy to continually educate yourself on yourself but the result is ownership. The kind of pride that doesn’t need to come with blame. We don’t have to be perfect, there is no such thing, but we do have to be honest. And if we’re being honest it is very rarely someone or something else’s fault that we aren’t where we want to be. So really think about that… you can either get busy blaming, which will result in a whole lot of nothingness. Or you can get busy doing which results in respect, results, and integrity. You decide.