I was at a speaker meeting a long time ago and I heard something, that at the time, I thought was so freaking profound. It moved me completely! I have thought about it a lot and, when I allow myself to be conscience of it, try to live by. This is what this speaker said, “there are only two emotions, love and fear, and when I’m living my life by that thought, things get better, one day at a time.” They went on to speak a little more on that but let’s you and I talk about it. I love this idea. I wish we could all find a little bit of this. The world would look very different.
We are born with love. It is innate. It is in our nature, almost always, to veer in the direction of goodness. It is in the process of living and learning by outside sources that fear becomes ingrained in us. Still, where there is love, there cannot be fear. And where there is fear, there cannot be love.
Every emotion is but a subcategory to love and fear. It is in discovering the source that we determine where we stand. But it is safe to say that if we are sitting in judgement, anger, resentfulness, sadness, or depression we are dealing with fear. While if we’re in a state of peace, serenity, joy and the ability to forgive we are dealing with a state of love.
There is a bottom line and that is choice. Yep, the C word. We have a choice, every single day to decide what our attitude towards the things that challenge us are. Or the things that fill us up… how we respond to those things. See, giving and showing gratitude amplify love. Offering forgiveness, even silently, amplifies love. Showing compassion, understanding, or saying a prayer for someone you do not like amplifies love. So, what I’m saying is that replacing typically titled fear behaviors with loving actions will almost completely diminish fear.
It’s something to really consider. It takes practice, like anything, but it is well worth it. Because, let’s face it, life offers enough storms that we have to maneuver, practicing our behavior around them changes every dynamic of getting to the other side of it. Fear will only emphasize the problem and make it longer and harder to get through. And that’s the minimum of the negativity around fear. Putting love, understanding and acceptance around it will diminish it, change it, require less energy, and let’s face it, emphasize feelings of love.
I wish I could explain the power in replacing fear with love. I mean how I feel praying for someone who I absolutely resent is so much more peaceful than harboring that negative emotion of disdain. So much more. Forgiving the person who flips me off in busy traffic is so much more calming than thinking continuous retaliating thoughts. Understanding that my boss has other frustrations taking place and that his attitude towards me, though unkind, doesn’t have anything to do with me. Those are all choices. That took practice. That allow my life to be filled up with love.
There is also an element of faith that is involved. I had faith that if I chose to live in love and not fear that my life would improve. I’m pleased to say that faith remains. Nothing is an exact science, and there will always (and I mean always) be bumps in the road, but when choosing a practice, something to practice…. love and positivity will always be a good choice…. the winning choice.
I’ll touch on this pertaining to work really quick because although I believe that all of the above enter into work too I wanted to be specific. Life is too short to be unhappy, fearful, stick to what feels safe, and worry about what others think. It’s a cliche saying, Life is too short, but really think about this for a sec…. We can either get busy living or get busy dying and I can tell you, straight up, that I did not get sober and healthy to make somebody else rich, pay bills, and die. So throwing fear and the need for safety to the wind is the answer. It just is. Living for weekends and vacations is not living. There’s more. I’m just saying, there’s more. If you love what you do then awesome! I mean truly… that is awesome! It’s so important. But if you’re not then make a change. It’s that whole choice piece that I talked so much about above. Negativity is a choice. But thank goodness so is positivity. Go with that one.