I’m going to get back to the ancestral lineage lingo soon, but had to pop on here today to talk about perspective. It just keeps coming up for me this week. I mean, if we’re honest, we’re offered opportunity to shift our perspective constantly. We just might need a gentle reminder, right? Totally.
I think that depending on several things, the way we were conditioned, how we tend to roll, maybe it’s a character defect, maybe we’re happier in the negative, maybe it just doesn’t ever cross our mind, we forget to look at something from a different angle to have a different feeling about it. It’s really quite powerful. It made me think today about how stuck on a given situation I can get just by rolling with the definition I, myself, gave it. Bummer, right? I mean, I so often look at the pros and cons of other people’s situations, yet can get really stuck in my wallowing on my own. What a drag. I vow to become more aware of this.
So yesterday I told my middle two kiddos that they could make some slime. I somehow, someway was convinced that given this specific YouTube video they had seen, that glitter was an absolute must. Sigh. So we made the slime and it was a huge success, texture wise (I don’t know if you have kids that like making slime but it is not an exact science and many attempts are usually required), but it has glitter in it. That should really be enough said, but just in case you’re not aware, just by owning a bottle of glitter, just by it being in your house, you will start to find specs of it everywhere. Never-freaking-mind applying it somewhere, having had the bottle open. So, yes it’s in the slime, and it’s really sort of cool BUT it’s also EVERYWHERE!!! Floor, couches, coffee tables, my shoulder, my cheek, on the books, and in the bathroom. You catch my drift, right? It’s like herpes, it spreads everywhere.
So, I voiced my frustration on Facebook, and was presented with the idea that instead of looking at it like the most giant nuisance on the planet, and something you would only wish on your worst enemy, to rather look at it like it’s decorating your life, reminding you to sparkle and of your childhood craft projects. WHAT? Brilliant! It, literally, immediately made me smile and look at the whole thing differently. I am all about a little sparkle.
Let’s look at where else this can apply… ummm ery where!! Grocery store line. Is the line moving slow or are you supposed to have time to respond to that text message to your son? Hunh? Is is rush hour or do you have a few extra minutes to finish that conversation with your husband while you inch along? Ya dig?
I’ve had an enormous opportunity to apply perspective lately with my work. Am I failing at it or do I simply not have any interest in that field at all? That’s a blog post all on it’s own… but my point is that we can get stuck. Literally stuck on a line of thinking that can really affect us negatively when, almost always, there’s going to be another way to look at it. The best possible way to look at it is from a place of you. How do you need to look at this to make it okay? And if it makes it okay for you, is it right? So another words are you making excuses, justifications, staying stuck in old patterns? Or if you’re okay with it is it because you’ve really looked at it and without pause it’s just not your jam?
I know for me that I must look at my part in it and decide if I’m running from something. I must talk it over with the hubs and, with complete humility, come to an answer. And then look at it from an angle of providing for and happiness…. for me the two must go hand in hand. And then own it… no matter what it looks like, owning that shit. As long as what I’m seeking comes from a place of authenticity and pursuit and not giving up then owning it is easy.
Look at things today through a lens that works for you… your lens, analyze it briefly to be sure that it’s a healthy lens, and then go with it proudly. Perspective is a choice, one that can hinder or help you, but always look at things through more than one lens…. perspective. It makes things better. It just does.